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Goals

Setting medium to long term goals is overrated (and even harmful at times). I know how controversial that sounds. But hear me out.

You have this goal and you are working towards it. Come what may you won’t give up. Perseverance. You are a fighter. You don’t give up. You achieve your goal and feel great. You are so proud of yourself. And so are others around you.

So what’s wrong with that? 

I think setting a medium or long term goal is like putting a blinder on. You are focused on that goal to the exclusion of other things. Read that again. Because you have the blinders on, you could miss something that could be even better. It’s exactly like taking a walk with a blinder on. You know your destination (your goal) and you are determined to reach it. You walk and don’t look left and right. And in doing this, you miss some amazing paths which could have led you to an even better destination. 

So living a life based on set goals is limiting. Instead, life should be lived based on fun. Don’t set goals. But instead have fun. Work on projects that are fun. And if something more fun comes along, drop this project (doesn’t have to be permanent drop - perhaps in the future this could be more fun) and take on the new project. Go explore that fork on your road. 




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